This coming week we’re celebrating the bride and all of her girls! Being a girl in a wedding is a lot of work. First, let’s talk about the bride – obviously a crazy busy woman during wedding planning time. She’s stressed trying to balance work and wedding planning, staying fit to be in her best shape, and getting ready to start an entirely new life as someone’s wife! And what about the bridesmaids? They give a lot. They buy expensive gowns, go to every shower and shopping trip, and talk endless wedding details with the bride. You know what all these women deserve? A really great bachelorette party! They deserve something fun! I know the bachelorette party is for the bride. The MOH is the one typically planning it, but I think the MOH deserves a good time herself! So this week I’m sharing all of my favorite bachelorette party ideas that are better than your typical bar crawl. I’ve invited industry insider, Azley Thrash, to kick us off with some tips for the bride to be sure her bachelorette party is a night she’ll love! Azley is a fellow wedding professional, working at The Old Cigar Warehouse, a historic venue in Greenville, SC. Stay tuned next week for new bachelorette party ideas to blow away the bridesmaids! In the meantime, here’s Azley’s 5 tips to ensuring your bachelorette party is something worth remembering!
I’ve seen some unique things at weddings. From a giant dinosaur making an unexpected guest appearance at the reception to an entire bridal party left feeling weary from some surprise ingredient cookies. These situations have happened because of something that a lot of people just don’t talk about—bachelorette parties. It got me thinking, why don’t people talk about it? After all, it’s just as much fun as the wedding reception, and they’re both celebrating the marriage.
After doing some extensive research (okay I asked my mom, my boss, and my teacher), I have come to the conclusion that people don’t talk about these parties because they have a bad reputation. I know, I was just as surprised. But really, when it comes down to it, the bachelorette party is just the night that the bride celebrates spending her life with her best friend alongside her closest family and friends. So what can we do to actively combat this negative image of bachelorette parties? I can’t tell you what kind of party to have, nor do I want to. But I can share some tips of the trade that will hopefully help you prepare for anything that may come up and help you avoid the mishaps I have witnessed in the past.
- Communicate with your bridesmaids
This is one of the few things in your wedding you don’t have to plan! It feels good, doesn’t it? Well, unless you’re like me and have to have your hands in everything. If that’s the case, I suggest talking to your bridesmaids. I’m sure they know you well and will plan the perfect party for you, however there are some details you need to iron out. For instance, if you have a strong preference for the type of party you want, it’s okay to let them know. The last thing you want is to expect a crazy night out on the town and get… horseback riding. And vice versa. Or if your weekends are packed and you have a specific evening in mind for the party, let them know! This night is for you, celebrating you. Let them plan it of course, but don’t be afraid to respectfully make sure it meets your expectations, just like your wedding.
- Plan accordingly with your wedding day
Traditionally, people want to celebrate their bachelorette days on their last night as a bachelorette. Makes sense. I won’t tell you when to plan your party, but I will say take your wedding date into consideration. Do you want the crazy night where you go out with a bang? Then you should probably plan for the weekend before your wedding when you can afford to have a day to recover and get back to looking and feeling your best on such an important day in your life. Do you want the relaxing spa day, complete with manicures and facials? Do this a couple days before your wedding so you still look fresh, but also allow for any mishaps and appropriate corrections if needed. Just as an example, I once got my nails done two days before my best friend’s wedding and my pedicurist did an awful job. Not even 24 hours later my pedicure was peeling and I was embarrassed to wear sandals. But because we went two days before, it gave me one day to go in (to a different salon) for a re-do.
- Consider your future spouse
Look, I get it. A few years ago if you asked me what I wanted to do for my bachelorette party, I would have basically recited rap lyrics to you. But I’ve met an amazing guy, just like you have, and could not imagine having that same kind of party anymore. I’m not saying you can’t; if you know it wouldn’t be a problem for your fiancée and you keep open communication about it, do you, girl. However, part of marriage is communication and consideration for each other. Talk to each other about what is okay and what is not okay so that you avoid an argument and hurting your significant other. A good rule of thumb I like to follow is “If I couldn’t do it with him there, I shouldn’t be doing it at all.”
- Cut costs where you can
In case you haven’t noticed, weddings are expensive. However, that does not mean that your bachelorette party has to be. Again, this night is a celebration with your closest loved ones, and, whether you want a wild night with them or an intimate gathering, you can do it for as little or as much as you want. And honestly, what is better than having a great night with your favorite people in the comfort of your own home? You can still decorate and enjoy the activities of your choice, but you don’t have to worry about driving, weather, uncomfortable shoes, or running out of food (my favorite benefit!). If you really want to have a night out on the town, ask around! Utilize the expertise of your wedding planner; she has connections and may be able to at least give you pointers, suggestions, or even deals and packages for whatever kind of party you want to have.
- Don’t feel pressured to invite others
I cannot tell you how often brides feel obligated to invite everyone and their mothers to any gathering or party they have. I am here to tell you that you do not have to invite your cousin’s friend’s sister who dressed up as a ballerina with you when you were 5 and wants to take shots with you now. I get that this example is extreme, but realistically this night is for you and your bridesmaids. If you do want to invite someone else that you just were not able to include in your bridal party, but you know you want her there, add her to that group text! But on occasion, there is that person who is dropping not-so-subtle hints to be a part of your night. And the truth is you have every right to communicate to her that your night is just for the bridal party. It’s not selfish, it’s not rude, and I promise 3 years from now, it won’t even matter. If she is really your friend, she will understand and still love you.
The most important tip I can leave you with is to have fun! No matter what happens or what your bridesmaids plan, remember that a lot of time, effort, money, and love went into planning this party for you. Whether it’s a night to remember, or one you will only be able to reference with photos, I hope from the bottom of my heart you enjoy your last hurrah as a bachelorette!
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